Carolina Teen Health

• With parents
• With your partner

Planning the Talks

Talking about sex isn't always easy, but it is important. Check out links below for ideas to help you start the conversation with your parents, your partner and your doctor.

Talking to your parents

If you are planning a visit to a health center, it may be helpful to talk to your parents.  They can be a great resource to help you take care of your health. If it is hard to find a good time to talk to your parents, try setting up a date and time so that they know you have something important on your mind. Try to pick a time that is good for both of you and gives you enough time so you won’t need to rush.

Talking to your partner

Talk to your partner about your comfort level and decision about having sex before you get anywhere close to having sex. It is easier to make smart, healthy choices when you aren’t in the heat of the moment. Be clear and honest, and remember you never have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Also remember abstinence is the only 100% effective way to prevent STDs and pregnancy.

What you should know and how to start talking

Talking to your doctor

First, call and ask about services or hours just for teens. Ask if contraceptives and condoms are provided and how much they cost, and be sure to ask if you will need parental permission; that way you are prepared once you get to the visit. When you get there, don’t be afraid to speak up and ask for what you need, whether it is testing for STDs or pregnancy, or a discussion about contraceptives.

Being honest with your doctor or nurse is the best way to make sure you’re getting the services you need, so be sure to provide a complete medical history. It is normal to be nervous, but don’t be afraid to ask a lot of questions. Your health care provider is there to help you and keep you healthy.

To find teen-friendly health services in your area, visit our health center locator.